BTW - did you see the W's message to me and her L last week to "stop the divorce"? And then her strange answer 24 hours later that she really meant something else entirely? Was this temperature checking or just a kick to the gut? Or possibly a momentary case of honest to gosh cold feet?
I don't think it was temp checking or just to kick you in the gut. If she was getting cold feet, it was b/c her "Plan A" was not looking quite as solid as she had hoped.
There is a reason the LBH is called her Plan B, or the backup.
Whatever it was, you can bet she was thinking of only herself. I realize some folks immediately jump at believing she was considering reconciliation, however I highly doubt her objective was to work on a MR with you. For whatever reason, she temporarily saw more profit or security in remaining legally married. Later, she had a change of mind.
I base this on the typical pattern of attitude & behavior of a wayward wife, and the fact your W has given zero signs that would indicate wanting another chance at a "relationship" with you.
When a LBH is dealing directly, or indirectly, with his WW.........the first thing he needs to do is to remember what drives the wayward. Pure selfishness! She looks at everything to see what's in it for her. If there is nothing in it for her......she doesn't want it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
