One of the things I've been learning is that any action I take regarding our MR with WW is always interpreted by WW as my trying to control her. So I changed my tactics and I avoid any direct action myself. I want her to discover her own "freedom" and what cost it will come at. It is very difficult and counter-intuitive, but I've tried the other way too, trying to "nice" my way to stop the D. It didn't work.
Hi CWOL,
I am sure my WW will lean on the controlling thing, since she hasn't tried to use guilt on my yet....yet. How did you go the route of no direct action on your part, without trying to "nice". I afraid my version would lead her to try to use me as a doormat, but I guess that's where the boundaries are so important. Of course then, you have to make sure the boundaries are to manipulate, punish, or vindictive. Is it via NC, good boundaries and dropping the rope?
What types of boundaries did you put in place with your WW?
How did you deal with the threats around kids?
Can you elaborate on what no direct action on your part means to you?
