Looks like I won't be staying local. I asked H to be really honest with me about what he feels, that if OW is still in the picture or he knows that he wants to separate with the intention of D, and is not interested in reconciling, I needed him to tell me so I can make the decisions that are best for me if the M is lost. He kept saying that the job market is so much better there (who cares!) and I was so happy when I visited (I do like it a lot better than this area), but finally said it wasn't right to keep me in limbo so I should go to start a new life where son lives.

He went to his room when I was packing last night, said he couldn't watch because it was so painful for him. I couldn't help saying that it was good for him that he didn't actually have to do it, then.

I read a sentence in a book the other day that stuck with me - about how easy it is to ignore the impulse to do good.

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17