My story job 9140 (3)

[Jb9140]

Alright, I'm moving into the separated stage SOON. I would like some advice from the vets. I've been looking at a lot of old threads for the last couple of days. It seems to me that over the last few years most people are advising a very tough love approach in their thread comments. I full understand that there's a difference between the WW and the WAW. The threads I see pre 2010 seem to be a little more compassionate of the WAS. I truly believe that my wife is more towards the WAW type. Only reason I say that is that the WW seems to be a lot more self centered and completely irresponsible. My wife has paid off all are debt in the last 4 months. Agreed to move out because she is fully aware she can't pay the mortgage and bills at the house. I've told her we need separate accounts instead 1 that she suggested and seems to be ok at the moment with it. I just want to give my self the best chance at reconciling my marriage. I understand attachment is more then just saving my marriage, it's about saving my life. I still want to be a safe place for my wife to come to if she chooses. I know I probably need to do the LRT at this point, but I don't want to come off as a total dick.