Spark, it may just be that he needs to sit in this mess until he's ready to miss you. Don't despair. Remember my friends who are together after one moved to Arkansas with no warning. It took over a year, but she came back and they are happy. Now you need to focus on your great life and your future, which looks rosy.
He will think differently in the near future, I guarantee it. And in the meantime, live your glorious life! See what happens. Maybe you need to be without him while you do the demanding residency. Maybe you'll fall for a handsome doctor who worships the ground you walk on. Maybe he will wake the hell up soon and follow you to Michigan. Do. Not. Despair!


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat