Hi Flight, it is interesting that your W warms up to a chat when it is all about her! That's a common theme and I guess she just isn't interested in you and your life right now. Of course, that could change at some point.

For now, I would focus on getting through the move and keeping an attitude of - this isn't what I want, but I respect your choice. It will be interesting to see how she gets on once she does move out. Probably there will be some initial euphoria to have got out of a tough situation. However, the distance can start to cause some longing in some cases, but it does take time.

For you, I would make the most of the opportunities that separation brings and enjoy taking up some new activities and making new friends. My divorce group has been great and I have a new circle of newly single friends of both genders, with whom I do something at least once a week.

You may have minimal interaction, but you can make the most of that - wearing a sharp new shirt, dash of cologne, new shades. Generally looking like a guy who has a life and who the gals may well find attractive. That may get your W wondering a little...and break the thinking of 'dependable old Flight.'

Glad you have reached a certain level of detachment. Like all feelings, I find it comes in waves and I will sometimes feel more attached than others - but overall I'm way more detached than I was.

Good luck with everything my friend smile

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus