Detaching/moving on can be a fine line to walk. If you want your W back then you can't be too detached. If she thinks there's no possibility then she'll give up. Since you know her better than anyone then you have to know where that limit is. If you're too unavailable she may just figure it's over for good and move on. I was truly detached from my wife and wanted to move on. She pursued. Still, if I had remained too detached and was never available to her then she would have given up and moved on. What helped me was I never said never to her. If she asked if we could ever work it out I always answered "maybe". I never closed the door completely. Do that and you leave her no choice. I know it's crappy advice "detach but don't detach too much." I get it, that [censored], but we can't tell you exactly how far to distance yourself from her. What worked, or didn't work, for us might not work for you. You have to use your personal knowledge of your W to know the "right" thing to do in your situation.
