Don't send the song. She will be thinking about it all day, if you send it that won't happen. I know it is hard. I struggled with not wishing my WW happy birthday but stuck to the plan.
I am seeing what works. I have mixed results with NC, good results with the occasional text, and bad results when we have R talks and I let her know I want the R back. I also have bad results when I resist her request for R talks. So I'm going to wait for her to contact me again about talking. And I will take it very, very slow.
But tomorrow I'm also going to send her the song I always play for her on St. Patrick's morning. Unless the consensus is DON'T!
No to the song. She left the NYGal that always played that song for her on St. Patrick's morning. She's interested, however, in this new NYGal. If she wasn't she wouldn't keep reaching out to you. Stay the new NYGal. Stick with what has produced positive results. Be the girl she can't stand to be without.
I definitely agree with no to the song - definite pursuit and to be avoided. Yes, there are some touch 'n goes from her. I think the best approach is to respond with around 65% of her enthusiasm. You (like so many of us) still have a way to go before you will be okay either way. I truly only think you can successfully reconcile from that place.
As much as you can, please keep shifting your focus from her and onto you. Can you tell us a bit more about the growth work and GAL you are moving forward with?
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Need advice. I stayed home sick today. The 2 minutes I was away from my phone I missed a call from W. Didn't call back, and it's now 12 hours later and I'm wishing I had. What should I do now?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
No message but my friend reminds me that no message on a cell phone still means, I called, call me?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
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