We have been Married for 20 years and I believe she has been having an affair for 8-10 years of it. I found some pretty concrete evidence that she did it and confronted her, she denied it and tried to make lame excuses. It didn't work because I know for sure. She was out of town on a work conference and I believe he was there, I went there to find him/her but she wouldn't come out of her room saying she was scared. So I agreed to meet her in public so it gave her at least 40 minutes to clean up, I confronted her and she wouldn't admit She did say she is willing to make this marriage work and agreed to counseling. She seems committed but I really can't believe anything she says. I feel alone, betrayed, scared, and confused. I still want to spend time searching for more evidence - which I think is pointless and a waste of time. Just read through the 37 rules and will start living by them right now, some of them are hard to do at this stage but I will do it. Glad I found somewhere to go (this site) to help with the confusion and get some advice on how to move forward constructively. I want to save this marriage.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
She did say she is willing to make this marriage work and agreed to counseling. She seems committed but I really can't believe anything she says. I feel alone, betrayed, scared, and confused. I still want to spend time searching for more evidence - which I think is pointless and a waste of time.