Just stopping by and I see you stated that you were not ready for hard core yet.
I too had that thinking.
It is not an easy thing to give your life over to the advise of a stranger and trust them that what they say will give you the best chance at saving your MR.
Just be careful with that. Most advise that feels wrong maybe the right thing to do. Don't hold back too much.
I also read that you said you are worried that your W is easing you into this. My W has said that to my face as we were in house for 9 months now. There may be some truth to it. But is that a bad thing.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016