Wife wants to leave but still at home 2

[sandi2]

The behavior of a WW can get pretty childish. In fact, there have been times I suggested the LBH'S response be nothing but a chuckle and a shake of his head as he turns and walks away from her.

I have read very few stories where the WW was anywhere reasonable about her requests concerning the children, or ...............well........anything else. The LBH needs to know when to just shrug off some of the nonsense, when to laugh at it, and when to decide he will die on that mountain before he gives in to her.

Unless she really has you over a barrel about an issue, I don't think she is really in any position to get too angry too much at you. And just b/c you are DBing does not mean you have to lay down, roll over, and ask her to give you another stomping. Frankly, I just don't encourage any LBS taking that type of treatment. So she's angry! She can take it somewhere else or keep it, but she's not going to explode it all over you!

I also suggested that the information she had from the parent evening, she could write it to me by email. One of her reasons for leaving was that she said she didn't feel good around me and has said to some (who are not here) that she is scared of me. Hence, I gave her the option of not having to see me. Again I got a hostile response stating that if I wanted written info, to speak to the school and that she had hoped we could have had an informal chat (whatever that means). Why does she want to be near me or around me, when she has now got what she wanted and left??

Did you ask her previous to the meeting? I see your point of view about the purpose of you not attending, but I can also see why your W would be angry about filling you in later with information she had to go to a meeting to get. (school or daycare?)

As a separated family with a student, it is really the responsibility of each parent to get information from the school. If you can't make a meeting, most teachers are more than happy to meet you during their conference period or have a phone call during that period. Schools are willing to mail progress reports to each parent, and schedule conferences with each one.

If you have a child in daycare, then they may not have the same setup. However, if a couple is living in separate houses, and one of them is not very cooperative, it would be a good practice to get information directly from the daycare.

Like I said, you need to decide which mountain you will die on. It is difficult to stay balanced and keep a clear head when all this mess is going on around you. Ah.....live and learn.