You ARE super awesome Sparkls. His fog won't let him see it.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Good luck on your Match day tomorrow. That "awesome" word must be nice to hear. You will find your path again and H will wonder wtf he was thinking. It may be too late for him and his childish behavior.
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
I hope you have a wonderful Match Day today, Sparkls!
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Thanks guys. I'll be moving to Michigan, which is totally fine by me. Busy exciting day, but also sad because 8 years of working towards this, H was uspposed to be there. I don't know how he can just walk away and not even ASK where I got in... A$$hat.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
It was a day of every possible emotion you can think of. Went out with friends and got way too drunk. The drunkest I've been since my 21st bday. But hey, no drunk texting. Still never got anything from H. The AM, in addition to my mild hangover, I'm just sad. How can he not even care? He has been on this ride for the last 8 years and he doesn't even care how it ends? I kind of am to the point where he's telling me every way possible that he's done, he doesn't care, and doesn't want anything to do with me. So why am I hanging on?
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Are you mind reading again Sparkls? I'm sorry your feeling this way today. Hang in there, and remember time is our friend, and it takes alot of patience no matter what.
I don't know if it's mind reading when that's what he's telling everyone. Actions speak louder than words, right? And his actions are to never talk to me, not ask about his dogs, etc. speaks pretty loudly from where I'm sitting right now.
At least now I can plan my life. House hunting in Detroit is a nightmare though, so I'll be getting a realtor to help me navigate.
M:26 H:32 T:8yrs ILYBNILWY/ "I'm not happy": 2/6/16 D-Day-discovered PA/EA: 2/10/16 Separated: 2/14/16 He's living with OW I moved to different state: 06/16 Currently: Trying to move forward
Spark, it may just be that he needs to sit in this mess until he's ready to miss you. Don't despair. Remember my friends who are together after one moved to Arkansas with no warning. It took over a year, but she came back and they are happy. Now you need to focus on your great life and your future, which looks rosy. He will think differently in the near future, I guarantee it. And in the meantime, live your glorious life! See what happens. Maybe you need to be without him while you do the demanding residency. Maybe you'll fall for a handsome doctor who worships the ground you walk on. Maybe he will wake the hell up soon and follow you to Michigan. Do. Not. Despair!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
