Communication with ex-wife

[Sotto]

Hi Bobby, I'm sorry you're finding things tough. It is early days in terms of healing. In your posts, your focus is very much on your XW and the recent end of your M.

Can I ask you what you are doing for yourself in order to move forward? Regardless of what your XW may do - what are you doing to assist your healing, to learn how to have a better R next time around, to build new social links, make new friends, get out and do things.

There may not be much you can do WRT her just now, but there are many things you can do for yourself. Can you tell us a little more about what you are up to??

Take care xx

[Bobbyb]

I have seen no glimmer of hope from her.
I am hoping her maybe wanting to see my girls is a glimmer. Maybe I'm just pretending.
Also..I gave my kids mail to give to ex and I slipped a Christmas card I had gotten her but she had not got. In it I enclosed a $20 Powerball ticket. I wrote " If you win, I want 1/2 which would be about $200 million after taxes. Merry Christmas and Happy Birthday"
Maybe it is a sign? I have as much chance of getting her back as winning the lottery.
If she does win and doesn't give me 1/2.
Then it is definetly over.
By my choice:)

[rd500]

Hi Bobby. It's tough mate but you need to live your life now. Now one knows what the future holds and it can always change.

We all get the sadness and loss you feel What do you do for fun. ? What interests do you have ?

This is all daw for you and it takes time to heal. Are you still working on you ?

What are your goals for you ?

Take care. Rd

[woundedfool]

I have seen no glimmer of hope from her.

And you will not see a glimmer either, you have still not stopped pursuing her.

I am hoping her maybe wanting to see my girls is a glimmer. Maybe I'm just pretending.

No, its setting an expectation.

Also..I gave my kids mail to give to ex and I slipped a Christmas card I had gotten her but she had not got. In it I enclosed a $20 Powerball ticket. I wrote " If you win, I want 1/2 which would be about $200 million after taxes. Merry Christmas and Happy Birthday"
Maybe it is a sign?

No, its not a sign.

By my choice:)

I get that it was tongue and cheek, but it is indeed always your choice.

IMhO: the powerball ticket/note (again, I get you were sending humor/olive branch), but is a rookie mistake. Set a goal for yourself about how long you can go without thinking about ways to interact with her.


edit - the word quote spelled incorrectly within html - Cadet
and wounded fool - it may be my fault on the edit button - you should have 10 mins to use the button however I edited it in about 5 mins - sorry

[MrBond]

You haven't given her space yet.

[Bobbyb]

Feeling a little down. Looked at my ex-wife of 4 months facebook profile picture and it is of her and another man. Been so good at detatching lately. I guess it was just a matter of time. Of course I am just projecting in my mind what it could mean.

[Thornton]

Sorry to hear that Bobby.

There's a lesson to be learned here, don't snoop. NOTHING good can come from it.

Keep moving forward my friend.

[GWH]

Yeah when you do that you only hurt yourself. Hang in there brother.

[Bobbyb]

Posting a new thread.
I have been divorced 6 months now and have had no contact at all with my now ex-wife since first of year.
We have no kids together.
So was wondering when and how is a good way to get back in contact with her. I have never given up on our marriage even though she did. I probably asked this before but I miss her.

[rd500]

Hi BoobyB. How about a quick update of what happened in your sitch so as many people as possible can offer an opinion ?