YES! That is all you can do -- to "do" anything else is just generating stress, anxiety, and negative feelings for you with no positive result. It's like when you're rowing a boat: I read somewhere that you get 75% of your speed with 35% of the effort (making those numbers up). To row faster and kill yourself with the effort doesn't get you to your goal sooner, it just wears you out.

My ex was brutal to deal with until I no longer cared, and then at that point she got very upset that I wasn't her friend and wanted more of my attention. You can't win with someone in the state of mind of your wife -- she's on a personal journey she has to see through to the end.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015