The thing that gets me the most is the anger, I know it can be born from the resentment but it's verging on the ridiculous with my W. I know many are hurting and, trust me, I have been too but lately I have found it to be almost laughable at her behaviour. I'm not trying to belittle anyone's situation, this is one of the hardest experiences I have been going through.
My latest is I responded to her email saying that I i wouldn't be agreeing to moving our D to a different daycare. They are only 2 km apart, I don't see the need other than one being open an hour longer. I have stated that I believe it's important for D to have some stability during this situation. I have stated that I would be willing revisit this in the summer after D has had to settle again. This naturally produced a heated response, I am not backing down though.
I also suggested that the information she had from the parent evening, she could write it to me by email. One of her reasons for leaving was that she said she didn't feel good around me and has said to some (who are not here) that she is scared of me. Hence, I gave her the option of not having to see me. Again I got a hostile response stating that if I wanted written info, to speak to the school and that she had hoped we could have had an informal chat (whatever that means). Why does she want to be near me or around me, when she has now got what she wanted and left?? I suggested that if she wanted to chat, we could meet at a neutral venue for a coffee or something, I have had no response to that...
I understand there is no logic or rational thinking while she is in this mess but like I said, I found her to be almost laughable. Maybe I'm finally getting this detaching thing..
