What you said isn't non-DB. It's what we all hope for when they enter crisis. What you said came from the heart and will mean a lot to not only Cali, but the other readers.
It's true, none of us know what the future may hold. Some may reconcile and go on to have healthy new marriages and others may have healthy relationships that may end up being really good friends w/o the marriage licenses. All we can do is work on us and pray for the lost souls.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
