Okay, I had to laugh a little at your negativity being a problem... H thinks I'm way too positive. To where he is furious at how I 'stick my head in the sand', how it's 'his job to educate me', how I'm way 'too altruistic' and 'bleeding heart', etc.
With some people, you just can't win.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17