Still moving in a new direction

[mleigh4]

I swear, you guys are better than any therapist, any day! I have to say, I had a strange realization yesterday when I was sitting in that room. First, I realized I had absolutely NO desire to talk about my marriage, H, or what is going on. Second, I asked her if she knew much about MLC or midlife transitions. She said she was aware of midlife transition, but before the time was even up, I knew I could not talk with her about my sitch.

Honestly, I think we learn more here, and by doing our own research! At least, that has been my experience.

Anyway, Hey Cali. I think your Jedi senses are correct. Mum is the word for me. I suppose on one hand, it's another good sign he is working through some things. The bad is that, once again, S and I are in the middle of it. I will control and manage that best I can, by being alert and aware, and continuing to keep the communication open with S and I. And you are right, I have never told H how to run his home with S, I have the same right.

Hawho, good observation. MIL is very focused on negativity. In fact, after looking at the report card, she went on to whisper, with S right there in the room with us, that she commented to his teacher how poorly so many of the students are doing, that some of them should be held back. She said when she corrects their homework, she makes big marks and comments in red. TERRIBLE! How dare she act like she is the teacher of the class, she is a piece of work. My comment back to her, was sadness, that those kids are not getting assistance from their parents, or help from a tutor. I help to correct the work for class too, and I use happy faces when they get something right! Funny how important perception is with what type of person you are.

Thank you also for the reminder. H definitely craves positive validation.

I am learning more and more about H by observation. It really helps me.

Thanks again for reading and posting and helping me work through each speed bump. Still not feeling well, in fact, now I have a low grade fever. Might be sinus infection now. I was invited for dinner but I just don't feel like anything!