Sorry I am on my iPhone and hit that submit button instead of preview. Argh.

Re-posting:

Mleigh - sadly your MIL's response speaks volumes. Nothing is good enough for her. She is a cynic. It's kind of sad as she's his grandmother and it's usually their role to be super positive and big picture focused. But it's quite a look into her mind. Very negative.

If you decide to try validating your s in front of your h I will be curious to see your h's reaction. I am beginning to see why he was so hard on himself a while back. Remember? When he said he doesn't want s to be like him?

Clearly he too needs validation anywhere it's warranted.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced