Mleigh - sadly your MIL's response speaks volumes. Nothing is good enough for her. She is a cynic. It's

If you decide to try validating your s in front of your h I will be curious to see your h's reaction. I am beginning to see why

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced