Well my hand was pretty much forced, OM was a bye boundary, I felt something was off .... Have no idea how long it was hidden but once exposed yeah 10days I was out and have been extremely dark since. So yeah for now I'm done, she never bottomed out and had me there as option B till things patched back up with OM. She definitely started running, from all I can tell guilt, along with never facing her issues plus the fact, there is some damage there that no matter what will be there... The outbreaks were a constant reminder of what she did... The fact she played em off was a red flag, she showed some remorse but never seemed really sorry not wanted to make it right
I hear ya on time scale ... Not that I track it but understand what you are saying... They say never trust anything till atleast 3 years after BD, I was 1 1/2 when she came back not wanting D, should have listened and let her continue to work.
As far as Mediation, I held true... If she wants it she files and she did, very fast in fact I'm sure fueled by the fact she was busted and didn't want to get caught. Just 3 nights before we talked about things and agreed to give it till May, I'm thankful to have found out and moved out on my terms... If she ever wants back there are some serious boundaries that will be non-negotiables .... No really paving the way home but sorry, you had your second chance and I will never settle for less than what I've worked for. Take it or leave it, and that's just where I am at the moment and hope to stay here.
Mediation apt today went well... Was like dejavu. Had to laugh.... I had all the documents all ready to go but I staple everything on the opposite corner from the rest of the world. The mediator was having issues by the second set and asked if inward left handed or something and I quickly replied, "No but maybe now you can understand why I'm here in you office... I'm a very difficult person" 😊
