Still moving in a new direction

[mleigh4]

Thanks Hawho, I really like your ideas. Especially validating S in front of H.....although it may tick H off, but I will try it. More than anything, I want my son to know how proud I am of his accomplishments, especially his school grades.

I am ready and waiting for H next parenting spew...a part of me wants to address things now, questions I had for him in the appt...such as...

What traits are you seeing in S that leads you to think he will end up irresponsible and lazy?

What specific issues are you having with S?

What specifically do you want to see from me?

They are honest questions I have because I truly don't understand what sets him off, unless it really comes down to his self projection. S is a 9 year old child getting near perfect grades and helping out around the house. What more does H want? We both work hard for everything we have, H and I are both far from lazy hippies. What would make him think our son would turn out like that?

I would love to ask, but worried about opening up a can of worms to begin another bash session from him. Might be best to wait and bring it up during his next tantrum?

I am home on my lunchbreak and Grammy and S just stopped by to get his computer. I decided to do a test. I got out S report card and showed her. She was quiet, read it over, said this is what report cards look like now? I said, in front of S, we are very proud of how hard you worked to get those grades. She just giggled and said, yes, we are.

That was it.

She downplayed straight A's like I have never seen, my co-workers were more excited!