I struggle with the CBT schema of subjugation. I would subjugate my needs until anger built up enough and I had an outburst. This occurred when the children didn't listen to my wishes. Since I also struggle with being assertive I became frustrated when I was ignored. This is the root of what turned my wife off all those years. There were other things but this behavior was the primary reason.
So in a nut shell, I suffer from CBT abandonment schema, CBT subjugation schema and I struggle with not being assertive. At least now I know what to work on. I am not crippled by these schema's but I need to improve myself in these areas.
Now you see me warts and all
Assertiveness Mu is a lot of technique, learn that and it becomes habit. That's one of my biggies too.
The other two in my view are more deep rooted and I think you are aware of the origins.
If I have any help you would like please let me know
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
