Ditto to what Tim said regarding keeping the text info between you and your lawyer right now. No need to show all of your cards to wife and her lawyer.
Have you been able to get any respite care for your mom? Believe me when I say that caring for a parent with Alzheimer's is consuming and stressful unlike any other horrible situation.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
A Divorce Busting Coach can help you save your marriage, even when your spouse wants out.
Email virginia@divorcebusting.com or 303-444-7004 for more information or to get started right away.