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I want to come back and revisit my last paragraph. When I said "catering", I am referring to trying to keep the peace over and over again about co-parenting. As the counselor pointed out, each household will most likely operate differently and it's going to take some time for your son to learn to adapt to the changes, but also your h is going to have to learn to be flexible and not set high expectations of what he thinks a little boy should be expected to do. The next time he spews, remind him that maybe it's time that he went to see the counselor about his expectations of his son are when he's co-parenting, i.e., you've already been there and done that.

You truly have gone above and beyond trying to co-parent in a nice way. Seriously, the next time he spews about your son, shut him down. Your son is a little boy who is trying to find his way in the world and should be enjoying life a bit and not having to live up to expectations of his father which are being projected on to him.