Cali, you sound good. A lot of what you are sharing makes sense. I had so much hope for you, but sometimes reading your posts about your W’s behavior or comments I thought that she was not done baking yet. Some people truly need to hit the rock bottom to start claiming back out of the funk. It looks like your W didn’t hit the rock bottom. She is truly a different person now. As for the lover from 25 years ago, I would say that at least she did break up with you when she decided to go out with that guy, she didn’t do it behind your back and she did tell you about it. I think you can give her a credit for that. I don’t know if this was something that set a precedent. I think that it could tell about her internal struggle back then and now in MLC, to figure out what she actually wants. Just my opinion… And you did have some good years with her in between, right. I feel your pain though, trying to reconcile the two worlds…
I think you need to make a joint arrangement with bttrfly, LOL. She wants to have a “funeral” for her H. Like your W, he died in a MLC train wreck… I said this much to my mutual friends as well, regarding H, that the old H is dead, and I don’t really like the “new” one (the one that is in MLC.)
Cali, I always get so much from reading your posts. Take care of yourself.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
