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CWOL,
I have so-o-o-o wanted to tell everyone about her A. The OM is divorced and has been playing the field for 16 years. But the W has a reputation, and is being very careful to not let anybody know. In fact, she's spending tonight at a hotel with the OM before they go off to spring training in AZ with the rest of her high school chums - they're all getting a house together. I guess they couldn't stand the thought of pretending for a few nights.

I would love it if everybody knew at this little retreat. I really wish I could take her comfort level away. And, this guy is also concerned about his business - that might make him less comfortable as well.

I was quite tempted to leave a message on their facebook page. The assistant knows - and has been protecting the WW, even telling me there was no A. It's like - oh, so these emails and texts are all imaginary? Really?

I wish the OM was married, because I certainly would have contacted his W if that were the case. But this guy is incredibly under the radar. He has no social media page, no listed phone number, no address - I missed my chance to get it when I was privy to all of my W's business info. They're making sure that his info stays at her office. So all I have is an email address.

His cell phone number might even be hard to find as my carrier only shows numbers that are called, not texted. Even though I have my W's contacts list (I backed up all her PC info when that was my job), she made sure he's not in there!

Anyway, I've considered telling this one person who might have been the one to almost talk her into stopping the divorce last week. This person has only heard her twisted side of things, and when you tell the truth - all you have to do is say "ask them".

I'm not sure what's bad at your WW having to face her own choices and what people think of her for making those choices - everyone makes their own bed and has to lie in it.

With me, I'm becoming less sure that telling people would make matters worse. If anything, it would be one more reality the W would have to face. Right now, I'm the monster - people who she's talked to think I'm the one that filed, and I've been a total rat-bas*rd to her. I walked into the bank I've been going to for decades - and you'd think I was a leper. It was incredible. They even asked my Mother to take her account elsewhere. Can you believe that?