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CWOL, I would go nuts. In a sick sort of way I'm glad the split was so fast. I would not be able to sit there with a WW pretending all was fine (at this particular moment in time) and wait for the other shoe to drop. Funny, that's what my WW said she was afraid of and why she wouldn't trust me to change - although because of the gaslighting I found out there wasn't really that much to change. It was all BS.

Anyway, I got that "we can be friends - that's all we are now" crap as well. Saying I could keep working for her, I'd be a "valuable asset". They really are insane. I mean, I can see that when some people have an amicable split - realizing they weren't right for each other it can stay friendly. That's not what we have here. Do they really believe you're going to be "oh yeah, you 2 have a great time tonight!" and be there the next day?

I don't know - Sandi has given some insight to this and even she can't fully explain it.

Now, you're getting this crap where she knows you better than you know yourself. Yup. No kidding. One thing I've noticed with liars - Vapo is spot on with this - they can't keep track of it all. They start lying about the lies, and forget what lie was when - or even start to believe the lies!

My W has left a trail of stupid that I don't even have to bend over to pick up. Does she really believe it? I mean, her L and my L don't believe it. I've heard everything but "yeaaah, that's the ticket!" out of her.

I see a lot of similarities between a lot of us here. My WW fired off in one of her email tirades that I had told everyone that she had "lawyered up" and was having an A, when the problems were really between us.

Well, I've told 3 people - well 4, and 2 are professional acquaintance one via email who lives a long ways away. I had to tell both of them for different reasons. The other 2 are friends, one I bumped into in the market, the other I saw the day before this accusation. It was obvious from her "lawyered up" that she had been reading my emails.

So anybody else who knows - it came from her, her parents or her assistant. In fact, the guy I told last had already heard, and asked me what was going on. I don't embellish - I just say "she got a lawyer which surprised me, didn't want to try counseling (seriously) and has a boyfriend". So since that came from somebody in her business - I know it originated from her.

I think it's almost funny (if it weren't so tragic) that she says "it's between us" when there's an OM involved. Certainly, I did things wrong, wrong enough for her to consider having an A. But it's certainly not a chicken or egg thing. If the OM said take a hike, I have a pretty strong feeling our WW's would consider at the very least working things out. I don't believe they would have acted this way up to this point without an A going on.

Yup, your WW is going to trip herself up. You've got the truth. It's elegant, simple, straightforward and consistent. I'm just sorry that she's able to get away with as much as she is. But it's not over just yet.