Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

[bigybiz]

Vapo & Mozza Thanks - You rock

[MrBond]

But what about your list?

Oh and there have been a number of success stories, but usually people put them in their own threads as opposed to the Success Stories section. Mine included.

[bigybiz]

Sorry typo - yes she does help pay.

[bigybiz]

MrBond:

Yes, I have a list. Its more a list of what I want but the goals are there. I try and reread it every couple of days and remind myself what I want. How did/do you use it?

[bigybiz]

Well made some big mistakes today. I'm sure I broke 38 or the 37 rules.

It was the first time we had talked in weeks about anything more than superficial stuff.

Started out with some big mix ups on schedule. She was hiding information, I was making plans without knowing her info then it turned into a mess. The we tried doing some planning for Easter. That blew up too. Half way through I started chasing. When I got the message that I hurt her for too many years, I did many unforgivable things and she will never give me the opportunity to do that again. Then she announced that she will probably move out in June when school is over.

I guess I'm back to square negative.

She has gone back to hiding. We did not resolve how to implement our chores and taking care of the kids in the In House Separation. We will need to deal with that again.

I did try and listen and validate. There were a few times that I saw her head nodding.

I'm feeling bad and don't know what to do next.

[Melo]

No worries brother. I have messed up really really bad over the past 8 months fairly consistently. Just stay the course, keep focused on the prize...a better you...and know that tomorrow will be better.

[bigybiz]

Melo: Thanks for your encouraging words. I'm hoping to recharge my batteries and get back on track Have you had much progress in your 8 months?

[bigybiz]

Cristy:

Thanks - I had a "setback" yesterday. On the other hand I found out some information that I did not know either. I'm not sure if that information is actionable. I'd like to set up some more appts with the coach $ is being an issue right now.

[Melo]

I guess it depends on the definition of progress. As far as being closer to a R with WAW/WW no, I made too many mistakes for too long for her to trust enough to consider it. As far as my state of mind YES, I am in a way better place now than I was 8 months ago, funny my W doesn't seem to be though.

[bigybiz]

I'm glad to hear that you feel good about yourself. I've been told to work on yourself over and over - I'm glad to hear that you are making progress.