Wife wants to leave but still at home 2

[CWOL]

We had been building a house and one of the things she has said was we were not making enough progress, that I wanted to wait to really nice stuff, that even a few light fixtures would have been enough. Nothing to say, she hadn't picked any out that she liked either. Anyway, I have since put in 2 light fixtures, a mirror, a new unit for the kids toys and a new dresser for my D. (W took the one from D room when she left). The kids have seen these changes and am sure have told her. I have made some more changes since also. Partly, I think she wants to be nosy as to what I have been doing here.

I guess it could be an opportunity for you to show off your DB progress. I wouldn't let her in by herself though.

I have the same home improvement struggles with WW. She wanted to renovate our house for years. However, she is a terrible procrastinator and has horrible self-confidence. She works 15 hours a week while I work a fulltime job. So I told her, on your days off why don't you go look at what you'd like to do to the house? She did one appointment then gave up. Then she blames me for the house falling apart. She complains I'm not involved, etc. I keep thinking, I'm the one that's working 50+ hours a week, why can't she interview the contractors first then I can just sign off??? I'm OK with spending the money...

This is one of the big problems in my marriage, WW being passive-aggressive about things.