How are you doing B? I'm awfully glad you finally retained a lawyer I know officially filing for separation feels final and horrible to you, but as you say, your marriage was over a long time ago. But that doesn't mean that you and your wife could never get together again sometime in the future, with a new, improved marriage. It just means that you are protecting your rights and your kids' rights.
Is your mother in law still in town? I bet she and your wife are feeding off each other's anger, and egging each other on. Ugh.
I have a couple of friends on this forum whose spouses are NPR. It's an awful personality disorder, one of the worst in my (uneducated) opinion. They felt the same as you, that sometimes they wondered if they had gone insane, logic met by rage, total altering of "facts," and them painted as the bad guy lying cheater. It seems worse for people who are sharing custody of their kids.
How are your exams going? Are you done yet? Have you and V started working on your steps? Let's hear some of the good stuff going on in your life! Are you making corned beef tomorrow? We're all honorary Irishmen tomorrow!!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
I know officially filing for separation feels final and horrible to you, but as you say, your marriage was over a long time ago. But that doesn't mean that you and your wife could never get together again sometime in the future, with a new, improved marriage. It just means that you are protecting your rights and your kids' rights. 