In collin's case - it sounds as if it's well worth finding out as it will make a huge difference because of his state's laws. CA being no-fault stinks, but that's where our society has taken us.
broke - I do know that kids are a lot more in tune with what's going on with the parents than a lot give them credit for. Even if they don't outright see a message, they know something isn't right. Something is going on. I knew it when I was 10 with my Father.
I don't know if you talk to them about it - or leave them out of it until you've got something concrete to discuss with them. But I certainly don't see how you can't have an age appropriate discussion with them. IMHO deception on any level will just lead to problems down the road.
1313 - I agree that the laws in Collin's state may help him. In our old home state, it would've helped me, too. Not here in my new state. Collin should just be the one to make the decision.
My kids have been told that their dad had an inappropriate relationship with a woman who isn't their mother. They ask me about once a month if he's cheating and I refer them to their father. The kids counselor recommended I say that because if I say I believe he's cheating then I look like the bad guy (because he lied to them and I don't believe him). But they don't believe him. It's really a shame.
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ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
