Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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Sandi2:

Thanks for your reply. Yes, after years of neglect to our house the projects have kick started. Why the neglect - I was delusional, I was waiting for something to happen re: work that would make everything better.

So now, I've got fresh paint everywhere, basic repairs are done, the pros have come in and fixed a few things too. It's almost time for some major projects to get done. Those will have to wait. Since I don't have the $ and who knows what will happen with the house.

Yes, I went full speed on doing the housework - now I've dialed it down a little and trying to find a balance. As I've said she hides in our basement working on her own projects, studying for a online course and chatting with her new friends and I guess she is planning her escape.

So finding the balance in the in house sep is tough. My expectations are at 0. I realize it's a marathon not a sprint.

I'm trying to be optimistic. Here is one of my many questions. In DB - Michele talks about " what would I do differently if W was to start considering R". Well I would want to be super husband if she would R. I'd say "I'll clean up dinner and get our youngest taken care of and to bed, while you go and study, etc. Then in a few hours we could have a cup of tea together and maybe watch a TV show".

Obviously that would be a threat to her now - so how do I Act As If - without breaking the 37 rules?