My first post - please be nice.

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I think Sandi's post on Wayward Wives makes a big distinction between WW and WAW. It changes your whole approach to your M, and how to address the problems you are having.

However, I don't think Georgia's reliance on Christianity and guilt of sinning is going to do much for a WW. She already knows she is sinning. Hammering her on the head about it is not going to change her mind about it, she is sinning because of her emotions. Exposing to the church may make her angry but not sure how it will modify her behavior in the long run.

As Sandi says: "No matter what her values and spiritual beliefs have been in the past, and regardless of the high standard of morals she held, they have temporarily vanished. For how, nobody knows."

Same with my W. I was the one she was trying to save for the longest time. Suddenly, she stopped going to Church. I didn't press it - but it seemed curious.

Her parents said that it had something to do with a disagreement over the firing of the pastor. But now I know this was all part of the process she was going through to turn her back on everything.

I can't believe that another person could be worth that.

I do believe that Sandi had recommended telling the Church, but don't take my word for it - that could have been somebody else here. I recommend reading every one of Sandi2's threads over and over. I'm about to read them again as you're going to be overwhelmed with information. I've not told my Church, but I'm about ready to if for no other reason than they can pray for her. My IL's might have beaten me to it though.

BTW, I'm in total agreement with everybody else regarding an A. We've all heard the same thing - it's like they're all working from the same script.

Best of luck collin, we're all pulling for you.