I think our people who leave are the same.. If we chase them, they will high tail it faster to escape..but if we DO NOTHING..then they have a choice. Choose us or walk away for good. Doing nothing and no contact doesn't really make things better, BUT at least you know you aren't making things worse right?
Good way to look at it, Red and Sparkles. And, I can tell you from experience that when I pursued, begged and pleaded, my H withdrew further and further away from me. So, I can't go NC (and that must be awful) because of the kids, but I am detaching as much as I can.
M 44 H 46 M 20yrs T 25 yrs S15 S12
ILYBINILWY 7/18/15 Move to MBR 9/8/15 Physical Separation 10/10/15 Suspect A 8/2015 Confirm A 12/27/15 D filed by H 2/2/16
