My first post - please be nice.

[broke]

The snooping didn't help or hurt my situation. In my head, I knew he was cheating, but my heart didn't want to accept it anyway. I even hired a PI for a day and he didn't catch my H either. When my H was caught, he didn't stop, which is what I would've hoped would've happened. I have no idea if they are still together or not. After a month of knowing about it, I finally called the OW's H to let him know it was going on. I sent the OW texts to tell her H or I would and I asked both the OW and my H to end it. They didn't so I felt the OW's H needed to know. That goes against DB'ing as well and it caused my H to file for D and buy himself his very own house. So, each person needs to decide what they can live with because there will be consequences. I wanted to know - I tried to snoop. I thought it would make me know that my M couldn't be saved because I thought infidelity was a deal breaker for me. I was wrong - I still would work on my M if my H wanted to. So knowing didn't help me get over H and it didn't make him stop and come home.