Sparkls- I had my friend today tell me something that kinda stuck with me. She said if i think my situations bad, there is always worse. Her boss who is 40 walked in on her boyfriend who is 41 having sex with her 18 yr old daughter, and found out they were having a baby and he was leaving her for her daughter. I WAS LIKE WHAT?! It could always be worse.
I don't know how NC feels since I talk to my H almost everyday even if it's how are the babies? they are good text.
I know that besides that though, I do not call, text, or try to contact him..and it hurts. I hate it. I know it feels like we are out of sight , out of mind..but I also know chasing makes it worse.
Chasing a dog that runs away makes them run away more(trust me, I have had to chase my dog down a few times for escaping.) Not chasing her, she has the choice..and she always comes home or at least comes back to where I am standing.
I think our people who leave are the same.. If we chase them, they will high tail it faster to escape..but if we DO NOTHING..then they have a choice. Choose us or walk away for good. Doing nothing and no contact doesn't really make things better, BUT at least you know you aren't making things worse right?
