My first post - please be nice.

[Georgia Bulldogs]

Collin,

I happened to notice under your name your location is listed as North Carolina.

I discovered another big reason your wife MAY be separating from you BEFORE finding this other love and happiness:


Maybe this doesn't apply in your situation because your wife works too and makes just as much or more money than you but; if not, and she is your "dependent spouse" separating before committing adultery (or revealing to anyone she is or about to commit adultery) behooves her economically.


Answer me these question:

1. If she is/was cheating....who do you suspect could be the guy?

2. Does she allow you access to her cell phone is it is stuck to her like glue and password protected? Does she guard access to her computer?

3. Do you have access to her cell phone bill? Is there a large escalation in activity over the last few weeks, month....up to a year???

I really don't want you to obsess over this for a long time. The faster you confirm or disprove suspicion the sooner you can get on with executing the most effective recovery plan for you situation.

*afterthought....if she is being so careful as to move out before cheating because of divorce/adultery/alimony laws she MAY be calculated enough to have taken the affair completely underground until AFTER she moves out. In other words...she may not be talking or communicating with OM at all right now. It's just too risky and it makes it harder to claim she met him and fell in love with him AFTER the separation if the phone bill and life indicates they've been way to close for way longer than that. Hopefully she'll feel safe enough in her car to call him and/or talk in secret to one of her girlfriends that happens to be her confidant.