No, you did well. He's a major league cake-eater. You have to take the cake away and be prepared for the temper tantrum he'll throw as a result of it. He likes his cake. He wants it to continue. The problem is that would kill you. You're too young and have too much life ahead of you to tolerate a cake-eater that thinks he can have a wife/mother at his beck and call and live with a girlfriend. If he was sane at this moment he'd see what a ridiculous situation he's trying to perpetuate. There are consequences for leaving the family home and choosing a girlfriend. First, and foremost, is unrestricted access to you and the kids. You have to cut that off. He can talk with them on the phone when it fits into your schedule. He can come over when it fits into your schedule. After all, you're not the one who abandoned the family.
