Thanks Acc, what you said makes a lot of sense now that I can I look at it that way. I have already had periods of coldness and warmth followed by more distance.
I will keep doing what I have been already, trying to make myself a better person and do the things I like to do and I guess I will find out in time how the rest plays out.
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16