Now what?/ One Day at a Time

[Sotto]

Hi Melweb, my take on this is that he's just doing enough to try and keep you where he would like you - ie: coming along to Mexico - with him continuing to see OW too. You saying you won't go to Mexico has interfered with how he thought this would play out. He doesn't want to have to go and say that you were unwilling/unable to come.

My suggestion is that you remain backed off, leave it for now and see if he raises it again. If he does, I suggest you let him know you aren't willing to be in a R with him whilst he continues to have contact with OW (and not going to Mexico is part of that.)

Now, if he says he is willing to let OW go, I would post here for more advice before proceeding further. There are some usually suggested minimums - NC letter to OW, willing to engage in MC etc.

However, I'm sceptical about his motives here - I suspect he may just be doing enough to get you to go on the trip. So, I would proceed with due caution.

Take care Sweetie - you're doing well in incredibly hard circumstances xx