Also I have been thinking about the financial side of things. I worked and brought in the money while she was a stay at home mum. I have a well paying job and had no problem supporting the family. Since W left I haven't really worried about the finances I am still paying her phone bill as well as child maintenance and other things she needs. Should I talk to W about her taking care of her own bills? Or will this push her away more?
It's a tough situation because she is so young and has never had to support herself it is a tough time for her that I really don't want to make harder but the other side is the harder it is maybe she will realize she didn't have things as bad as she thought? I'm just not sure how to go about it
You should check with a lawyer about your state's laws, if you want to push her to pay, as it may prompt her to file for divorce. They vary widely. For example, in my very liberal state, I bring in 95% of total income while my WW works only 15 hours a week. For temporary support (alimony), because there is such a big disparity between our incomes, I have to give her about 45% of my take-home (after taxes) pay even though we are sharing 50/50 custody! How is that fair? I'm not the one who cheated. The rationale is that I have to help maintain her "lifestyle" while we go through divorce. So in your case, if you have the same laws, you will be forced to facilitate her new "lifestyle" and hand over a lot your money.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
