Here goes nothin'....

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Melo: My DB coach told me that since my wife is full of resentment anything I gave her to read she would be suspect of. In some rare cases if a friend gave it to her it might resonate - but don't count on it. I asked my W if she would read the chapter on WAW and she said she would. Luckily, I spoke to the coach first.

Regarding snooping. I was snooping like a jr spy in a bad movie. It did help for a while, I learned a few things and was able to "clear up" some misconceptions and was warned about some bad behavior. But, I still felt weird. So now I don't do it at all. It's tough, but I realize that's not the man I want to be and it's certainly not the man she would want. So I resist. It is part of the detachment that everyone here talks so much about. If there is comfort in knowing that I'm in the exact same boat.

Melo - I wish you luck and support.