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Sorry, CWOL, I agree, none of it is fair. Seems like the cheaters are the ones that come out on top in our situations.

I can totally understand your anger. Sometimes it's easier to be angry than sad.

Sad, but true. Each State seems to have a great way of equity for the wrong people. The "no fault" thing was the beginning of divorce mania, and rewards the wrong people too easily.

In my case - well nevermind. It's as screwy as CWOL's sitch. It's just sick and wrong. I know there's a few states left that adultery is punished to some degree - I feel it should be taken into consideration no matter where you are.

Then there's broke, who doesn't get diddly for years of loyalty and sacrifice. Did the H move her to this other state just to be able to get away with murder? It almost seems like it.

I dunno. I'm still numb after court today. It's weird talking with the L, and she's like "what is it about that dog?" and all I can say is the W's doing everything she can to twist the knife. This is one of the last things she can draw out. In spite of everything she said.

I'm not sure which takes more energy - anger or sadness. Probably anger, because my heart doesn't beat hard when I'm sad.

CWOL, all I can say is the system stinks. They could work something out - but seem to want to have some sort of blanket remedy for everything. A spouse being abused should be able to bail, take their kids and get paid. A spouse who is having an A and files for a D shouldn't get handed half of everything and get the home just for breathing.

I think I'm moving back to sad again. I can't let that happen, because that's what the W would want. Don't you do what your W wants CWOL.