MB, I have been here for a while, but have only today read your posts. Your posts title caught my eye because I too am trying to detach and then I read about your son and I am so sorry. I am really happy he is back at home and recovering as well.
It's so hard to come to terms with the person that your spouse is or has become. His failure to show concern regarding son is horrific, but as you know, we cannot make them do what is right. They have freedom of will and they have to love with their choices. The more you discuss with or try to reason the more they resist. You too, have many choices right now (even though it doesn't feel like it) You have the choice to disengage completely. We might not be detached but at least we can fake it. We can also choose to be good examples though , by doing the right thing in the face of turmoil and chaos.
NYGAL, Thank you for posting that advise. So helpful. It brought me hope. I also like to understand more about what it is the walk aways are thinking. I truly hope this is difficult for them. It would have to be, right?
