Tim- I will be trying to go as dark as possible just for my own sanity right now.
Painter- The L I have said this: IF I tried to go for the house i'm 95% not going to get it unless I want to fight and spend a lot of money because my name is not on it and it was a premarital asset. IF I DID get it then L could say you get use of the house for 2 years but H would not have to pay any of the bills which means I would not be able to afford it anyways.
He said since H is offering the house for x years(however long I want it so he says) and to pay the mortgage and some bills, along with the 500$ in child support he is really paying almost 1200$ a month for me and the kids to live there.
The only problem is the stipulations. His offer-I give you this IF on the days I want the kids I can come home to sleep and you go to your moms like we are doing.
My L said I could say NO- I want sole use, you can't come in it. But then H can put in fine BUT as soon as your get a boyfriend- relationship or something then you have to leave and you no longer will be able to live there.
For every stipulation I make, he can make one because it is in his name and I can't actually afford it without him.
L said it looks bad on ME though if I say NO. If we go to a judge and he says okay where are you going to live and I say my kids will share a room at my moms(they are boy/girl 4&5 almost so they are NOT suppose to share a room past age 5) and I will have a room VS a fully PAID for FURNISHED 3 bedroom house the judge will either think I am looking to just screw over my H and lower my child support to the bare minimum because I'm just out for money OR say no, you are staying in the house in the best interest of the children.
It's not like H is being nice giving me the house. IF I leave AND he has to pay over 500-600$ in child support he will loose the house anyways and end up having to sell it and we both end up with no house.
IF I STAY he will have enough left over to rent a room or pay for half an apt with the OW if he wanted, or whatever he will do.
Broke- He KNOWS my weakness is my kids, and feeling loved. He knows if he is nice and loving he can usually get me to do anything for him. Not anymore.
Txhubby- Your crush the nuts comment made me smile. It really cracked me up. I know I need to give up and stop trying to save it since it really is nothing worth saving anymore. I had a cop and my L tell me I can't change the locks. House is in his name, all the bills, and over 50% of his stuff is here so the cops said if I changed them then I could get in trouble. Ridiculous yes.
Trumpet- yes I do believe in god, I think I need to go to church more though. I need something.
I hope you guys still will help me and be here for me. I know my M is over and I have to stop trying to save it. I don't want to have to leave and do this on my own though. I'm really sad today knowing I have to give up saving it when I know, I KNOW I can't.
