i agree, talk to her. Make your stance known that you wouldn't give up on a marriage, but you can not force her to do anything. You will also try to make the most out of life no matter what happens.
than leave everything in her court.
This exactly what my goal will be when we talk. I really have zero interest in getting into a deep relationship talk. If she goes there though I will listen. She does seem confused. There will be no pressure from me.. I am good either way. I know that.
I am not sure if she has the strength though to work through things. She has said 'thing should be natural'... you shouldn't have to try. This would be a very difficult thing to come back from. She has been in several relationships over the past 16ish years. I believe she is a "free loader" or "renter" if any of you have read that book. My concern is being back here in 3-4 years with even more at stake. I would like for her to read a few books including the 5 love languages. We were completely missing each other here. I won't mention it for a while but it will be a requirement for any chances of reconciliation. Actually even if we get divorced I will still mention it to her... she needs it.
Anyway, we will see where it goes from here. No expectations from me. I am not even sure what I want anymore. Thanks again!
