Hey OTW,

Interesting way of thinking about it, I see now that a lot of boundaries have to be set if I was to interact with my family. Once that S agreement is sign I was thinking of maybe having some contact with my family but I wanted to wait till the S agreement was done.

I just feel at every chance they try to pull you down with looking at every negative thing. We announced our first pregnancy after we were married and it was met with groans and questions of why and really.

DBing is very good for this exact problem of an over reaching negative toxic family. You make a good point .


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016