Getting out of in house S (8)

[vise82]

hey

Thanks for the feed back, It seems trivial now but at the time I had a house with my brother, father tried to buy it but could not, this was after he signed to buy and was leagally required to. House was for my brothers and I to live in, allowing us to move out of the parents home, we were going to pay rent to parrents for the house.

My brother an I stepped in and were approved for the house and bought it. We paid all expenses and collected rent from the other brothers. We renovated the house. five years later I met my W. She wanted us to have a place of our own and pushed me to sell my share in the house, other brother agreed to sell the house. There was a lot of equity in the house at this time.

Other brothers that were renting didn't want to move and pleaded to our parents. Our father seeing how much equity that was in the house sued brother and I for interest in the house. Was approved by a judge as father had the paperwork for the offer to purchase that fell through. It stopped the sale. It stopped the building of W (then girl friend) new house. We agreed to take him to court until renting brothers asked for their share of the equity before it went to court. At that point brother and I walked away from it. Parents were not invited to my wedding the same year. Parents said they would go to the wedding anyway and threatened to fight anyone who stopped them. We had to hire police at the wedding. Parents did not show up, but would still harras us and try to make contact with our child. We wanted no contact with them.

My other brothers and sisters would feed parents info on where we moved to and things going on in our lives, the harassment followed. We asked then to not give parent info, they did not listen. We moved and I stopped all contact with my family. I stopped all contact with my best friend because he was friends with my brothers. Harassment has stopped.

W is worried that if my family knows we are separating that they will try and cause trouble again. She is also worried what they will say about here as they do not like W at all.

I have still not contacted my family because I am trying to grow on my own with out the crutch of my family, also there was a toxic dynamic with them.

I have felt that is what I needed to be alone fro them to grow socially. I guess It has happened to some degree but hard to see when I am faced with myself everyday. Looking back I have grown a lot.