Rednail- Me, Myself, and I

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I agree with others, Red, your H loves to control and manipulate. I think you have right idea about going as dark as possible. Can you set a time each day he can talk to kids and you don't have to talk? Can you leave house when he is there? May be time to set new boundaries and evaluate them.

Don't get discouraged though - he's a master at this. Just remember - you know your H best, too. Think about what makes him tick. My H uses my guilt about the kids to get at me. He knows I'll do anything for them. Just an example. Think clearly about what your H uses to get you. Then you can be prepared before he does it. Or make clearer boundaries now that you are further along.

You've come such a long way, Red. You're going to school, got jobs, a backup plan with cash and clothes. You are very strong - you can do this. And I'm glad you are seeing another L. Especially to talk about the house and how that will work. Keep us posted.